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The scary thing about relationships is that you're only in control of one half of it. It's a two-way commitment and there is NO way to guarantee that the other person will hold up their side of the bargain. Which is why the thought of relationships scare certain people, people who take comfort in knowing that everything in their life is within their own power to make or break, people who would settle for nothing less than absolute control to make themselves feel secure, people like me.

How can some people be so naive when it comes to girlfriends and/or boyfriends? Don't they realise how stupid they sound going on and on declaring to the world with such full confidence that they have found their soulmates in each other after dating for like what, 4-5 months? These are the kind of relationships I've observed time and time again to fuse out fast then crash and burn. These initially crazy intense relationships are the ones that don't make it far after the fire and excitement dies down. And yet they never seem to learn and fall back to square one and end up repeating the same mistakes all over again.

On the other hand, I've seen plenty of couples going on strong for 4-5 even 7 years but are still pretty low-key about it, probably because they're matured enough to know that nothing is forever and the future in unpredictable. These are the couples I see lasting well out of their teen years and over into their late twenties, finally resulting in marriage. How life works out for them after marriage is a completely different story, though.

Someone once told me (I swear to God I forgot who. Nals, probably?) that finding the right person is not enough. What's equally if not more important is finding them at the right time. And I couldn't agree more. Rubbish, some hopeless romantics might say. Love can happen at any time and any age. There is no specific or right time to fall in love, it will happen when it happens and everything will take its course and bla bla bla barf. Yes, I personally know many couples who were childhood or high school sweethearts who lasted a long time together and ended up getting married but different couples are different. Maybe they were built to handle it, maybe you're not. Stop comparing and saying its possible because high chances are that for you, its not. Timing is crucial. Preferably, at a period where both sides are financially stable, mentally matured and emotionally prepared.

Why do people say when you meet The One, they're worth taking a leap of faith one? Barf again. To me, I think love deserves to be fun and free and spontaneous weeeeee but not all the time. There are times when you have to step back and be practical, be realistic as to whether this is actually going to last or whether it's going to be worth it. Weigh out the odds. That's the only way to prevent yourself from getting hurt, prepare yourself for what's to come.

And for those who simply say they don't care and insist love is all about going with the flow and letting the tide take you where it wants to on new adventures or experiences and that heartbreak is all just part of the process, I say these people are stupid and don't respect themselves enough. Maybe they should learn to love themselves first before throwing their lives away on someone who doesn't.